“Love is a virus. One I think we should spread.” – Tom Proctor

On August 29, 2013, The Only Love Project’s Bill Murphy (BM) spent an enjoyable hour via Skype with Hollywood actor, stunt performer, director, and producer Tom Proctor (TM). What follows is the transcript of our conversation. Enjoy!

BM: Briefly tell us your background. What would you like others to know about you?

Screen Shot 2013-08-29 at 1.02.38 PMTP: Well, my background is I grew up a farm boy, raised on the family farm. And it was one of those, like, five farms together to make one little farm, so to speak. And so it was kind of funny, you know. I didn’t know until after I had moved away from home and until I was about 34 years old that we were poor when we were kids. I always thought we were doing great, because all our family, we’d run cattle up on the range, and we each owned like five acres that we’d come down to the river a lot, you know, there’s big-ass trout in the river right next to your house, so what was missing? [laughs] I didn’t know until I got older that we were basically poverty level. I said, “Really? Wow, I didn’t know that.”

BM: What effect did your childhood have on you?

TP: It really made the core of who I am. And at the end of the day, at the end of anybody’s day, I think the core of who you are is really all you’ve got. You got the world that has its expectations – especially when you’re in the film industry – of what you are and who you should be. And then you’ve got what makes you what you are. I’ve been a very competitive person; I’ve competed in motorcycle skill trials, drag bike races, I’ve been a competitive fighter, everything else. And I always felt like I won, because of where I came from. Because that was my family, and that was the way it was. And my mom was one that always managed to promote the positive. And my dad’s my biggest hero. Everybody thinks in Hollywood we’re all supposed to have some sad, abusive childhood. And I just really don’t. [laughs]

BM: [laughs] What’s a nice guy like you doing in a place like Hollywood? Continue reading

Only Love and 9/11

wtc6What is the “only-love mind” approach to the 12th anniversary of 9/11?

Just this: tears, hugs, love, and compassion toward those who still hurt, who still grieve over the loss of loved ones.

Our job with The Only Love Project is to ask, “How may I help you?”

Love is NOW — present tense, and active. Therefore, seeking enemies, punishment for past wrongs, harboring anger or hatred, or wishing things had been different does not help anyone. But a helping hand, a kind word, a listening ear, a hug, or empathetic tears does.

Granted, such bring no-one back, cannot erase the horror of watching the Twin Towers collapse, stop the planes from crashing…or remove the hatred in the hearts of those who spent years orchestrating it all.

Yet, the power of the words “I love you and I am with you” cannot be overstated. The darkest of days, the saddest of hearts, can be transformed by the light of those eight words.

So, to those whose hearts still ache, whose tears still flow, who still long to see those who died that day…please know that we cry with you.

“The More Excellent Way of Love…”

It was 50 years ago today…

On this date — August 28, 1963 — Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., delivered a speech that has reverberated for half a century.

The full text of his speech is available here as a pdf.

Here are a few excerpts from the “I Have a Dream” speech, taken from the web site History Wired, which was created by the Smithsonian Institute Continue reading

Two New Interviews Coming!

The Only Love Project is honored to announce that we will soon feature interviews with Zen Master Ven. Dr. Wonji Dharma (Paul Lynch) and famed Hollywood stunt performer, actor, director Tom Proctor.

1352487901Zen Master Wonji Dharma is Founder of the Five Mountain Zen Order, and President of Buddha Dharma University.

Ven Wonji is a poet, teacher, and author of several books on Zen.

Tom Proctor is enjoying a remarkable career in Hollywood, appearing with some of its biggest stars, since the early 1990s.

TomPTom is known for being a gifted stunt performer, as well as an actor, producer, director, and writer.

Wonji Dharma and Tom Proctor bring a wealth of experience, insight, wisdom (and humor!) to the discussion.

Many thanks to both for agreeing to an interview with The Only Love Project!

 

De-Splicing Brundlefly

We’re sometimes asked where The Only Love Project came from. The answer is right under everyone’s nose: Facebook.

The Project was born a little over a year ago because of two things:

1. Contemplating a simple phrase from the Dhammapada: “Only love dispels hate,” wondering what it means, how it works, etc., and

2. Watching the anger, divisiveness, bitterness, and sadness on Facebook — about every subject, 24/7.

It doesn’t matter what issue it is, someone inevitably appears with a different point of view. And that’s okay. Differences make life interesting. Imagine everyone eating the same food, reading the same books, watching the same movies, mowing their lawns on the same day, in the same way. That’s not society; that’s the plot of The Stepford Wives.

Sadly, thanks in large part to the Internet, everyone has become firmly entrenched in points of view. So much so that their identity has become their direction.

Their identity has become their direction.

brundleflyIn other words, they and their cause have merged, sort of like Brundlefly in the horror movie The Fly. When scientist Seth Brundle accidentally merged his DNA with a common housefly, the two became one — with disastrous results.

Same thing is happening today — only Continue reading